Plastic surgeons say 50 per cent of female clients are new divorcees
As plastic surgeons say 50 per cent of female clients are new divorcees, Closer Issue 784 January 2018 speaks to the women going to extremes to boost their confidence post break-up...
In the past, breaking up with someone meant getting a new haircut, dieting, or overhauling your wardrobe in a bid to reinvent yourself and show your ex what he's missing.
Khloe Kardashian cultivated the idea of the "revenge makeover" last year with her own TV show dedicated to helping newly-single people transform their appearance after being dumped.
But, shockingly, an increasing number of women are now turning to the scalpel to boost their confidence post-split.
In November, Melissa Meeks made headlines when she underwent vaginal tightening after being dumped by her husband, Jeremy "hot felon" Meeks, who's gone on to date heiress Chloe Green. Meanwhile, Amber Turner recently had a breast enlargement after her break-up with co-star Dan Edgar.
And it’s a growing trend.
A survey of 500 women, powered by mobile app OnePulse, revealed that a quarter of people would consider surgery as a way of lifting their self-esteem after a break-up.
Plus, the most recent study by the Transform plastic surgery group, which owns 22 cosmetic surgery clinics nationwide, found that more than a quarter of plastic surgery patients were recently-divorced women.
Dr. Flor Kent, an Aesthetic doctor from Transform, says, “At the moment, around 50 percent of the patients I see are divorcees.
After going through the trauma of a break-up, women want to transform themselves.
Surgery is a much quicker fix than things like diet and exercise and they can be more precise about what they want to change.
“Boob jobs, liposuction and labiaplasty [vaginal surgery], along with lip fillers and Botox tend to be the most popular treatments.
Surgery is widely available now and it’s less of a taboo, so it’s seen as a fast way to improve your confidence.”
However, psychologist Emma Kenny says women shouldn’t rush into surgery.
She adds, “When you’ve been through a break-up, it’s natural to want to make a change.
But it’s important to understand that a physical change won’t address your emotional problems. I’d advise addressing the trauma of a break-up first, even if that means counseling, before undergoing a drastic op that you could regret.”
‘Botox gave me confidence after a devastating split’
Fiona Murphy, 49, from Weymouth, runs vintage swimwear label Bettylicious.
She says, “I have married for 25 years until my divorce three years ago.
“Every time I looked in the mirror, I saw this older woman looking back at me.
After years of being a mother to my two children, who are now grown up, and then going through a tough divorce, I decided it was time to look after myself and do something just for me.
“I decided to spend £175 on Botox and I loved how it smoothed out my forehead.
“I then went on a diet, lost a stone, got a spray tan and eyelash extensions and felt so much better about myself.
People told me I looked amazing and it felt wonderful.
“Although I’m now in a new relationship, the Botox wasn’t about attracting male attention.
I just wanted to do something for myself that would make me feel good again.
“I haven’t had any more Botox because I can’t afford to keep it up, but I wouldn’t say no in the future.
It was what I needed at the time to give me a boost and gave me the push to make other changes.”
Single mum of four Kim Hanson, 37, a teaching assistant from Manchester, says, “Last year, I decided to undergo vaginal laser surgery after splitting with my husband of ten years, Chris, in 2015.
“When I broke up with Chris, I was feeling really down about myself. After four kids, my body just wasn’t the same.
My youngest son was a particularly big baby and left me with stress incontinence as I had to be stitched up.
“I would worry about it when I was on the trampoline with the kids, so it was really daunting I to think about dating and having sex with a new man.
I’d also put on a bit of weight and my size 12 clothes didn’t fit, so I was feeling low.
“But, in December 2016, I met my current boyfriend Jamie, 27, a production operative, online and we quickly began dating.
Still, being an older, divorced mum with four kids, I worried he’d notice the age difference.
To make matters worse, I also went through an early menopause around the time I met Jamie online, so my confidence was at rock bottom.
“I’d heard about designer vagina surgery, but assumed it would be really expensive and would have a long recovery period.
So I was surprised when I read about a new type that could be done in a day and cost £500.
“After chatting about it with my sister, who is a nurse, I decided to go ahead and book it and, in April, I used some savings to pay for the surgery.
It involved a laser being used to tighten both the inside and outside of my vagina – it was painless and I was in and out in a day.
“A week later, when I was fully healed, I was really pleased with the results. It’s so neat and tidy now and there are no longer signs of ageing or childbirth.
And my sex life is amazing – both Jamie and I can really feel the difference.
Plus, it’s completely cleared up my stress incontinence.
“I’ve recommended it to all my friends and they laugh when I tell them I dumped my husband then got myself a new vagina!
But two of them have gone ahead and had it, too, and feel the same.
“I’ve also been dieting, so I’ve lost a little weight, and I’ve had a new haircut.
But, really, it’s the surgery that has made me feel like a new woman since my divorce and I don’t worry about the age gap between Jamie and me at all now.
“It gave me a new lease of life in the bedroom with my new younger man.
I wish I’d done it years ago!”
‘I had the boob job I’d wanted after becoming single’ Clare Matthew, 39; a school admin assistant from Colchester, Essex, says,
“I’d hated my size 32AA bust since I was a teenager and longed for a boob job, but my ex-husband Chris, 41, didn’t agree with surgery so I’d never got further than Googling it.
“So, when we split in 2006, it was the first thing I booked. We were together for seven years and I was worried about dating again as I felt so unfeminine. I struggled to find bras that were small enough for me and the extra material would gape.
“I had breast augmentation in December 2006 to take me up to a 32C, and I’ve never looked back.
I bought myself sexy underwear sets and finally felt confident. It gave me the courage I needed to go out and date and I got so much more male attention. I could finally wear figure-hugging clothes and feel sexy.
I bumped into Chris a few weeks after my surgery and felt smug when he told me my boobs looked incredible.
“I met my second husband Rob, 37, four months after my surgery and my new bust gave me the confidence to date him. Rob’s never known any different, but he says he loves my boobs.
They’ve grown a little since I’ve had children [Clare has two children under 10] and I’m now a 34C. I do worry about the risks of implants as I get older, but at the time, it was the best thing I could have done to make me feel better about myself.
I don’t regret it.
“But now loves her 34C chest
Ultimate payback after a breakup? Plastic surgery
The reality show in which women compete for pre-wedding cosmetic surgery may be getting all the attention, but doctors who ply their trade sculpting bodies and faces know that just as many – if not more – of the patients walking through their doors are motivated not by a new union but a marital breakup.
“There are a lot of women who come in either pre- or post-divorce who are looking to make themselves feel a little bit better,” says Michael D. Cohen, medical director of the Cosmetic Surgery Center of Maryland.
The whole story might not come out at the beginning, he says, but once he gets to know a patient, he often starts to hear details of a split.
Two weeks ago he did a tummy tuck and eyelid lift on a woman just out of a 37-year marriage, followed by breast augmentation for a woman in her 20s who found out her husband had cheated on her. “She suggested to the people preparing her for surgery that it was sort of payback,” he said.
Hence the nickname the procedures have gained: “vengeance plastic surgery.” It’s become so popular with physician Stephen Greenberg’s clients in New York City that he developed a “divorce package” that gives patients a slight discount if they’re coming off a breakup. (And it’s not just women; Greenberg estimates that 30 percent of the patients taking advantage of the plan are men.)
Ann Soriano wasn’t thinking about revenge.
The New York City woman’s husband left after 17 years of marriage, she says.
They were separated for several years before she filed for divorce seven months ago.
Five months later she walked into the offices of Joseph Eviatar.
“I lost a lot of weight, just from the stress of it all. And if you lose weight because you’re eating well and exercising, it looks good. If you lose weight because somebody walks out on you, you don’t look so good,” says Soriano, a 49-year-old office manager.
After a round of Restalyne injections, she’s feeling better about her appearance and contemplating liposuction for her midsection.
“I was just like, ‘Jeez, I don’t want to grow old by myself. So I’ve got to throw myself out there and see what happens,’ ” she says. “And the first thing [people notice] is the look, unfortunately.”
Phil Haeck says that’s a common theme among his patients: “I’m going back on the market and I’m afraid how I look right now isn’t going to work.”
Haeck, president of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, says he has two major concerns about clients seeking treatments in the midst of a divorce: They’re making weighty decisions during an emotionally unstable time. And they sometimes expect that plastic surgery will immediately alter their circumstances in life.
“There’s a discussion that has to be had – do they expect to find Superman or Superwoman the next day after they change their appearance? Because that person may not suddenly drop into their lives just because they’ve had something done,” says Haeck, who practices in Seattle.
But, he adds, in the best cases cosmetic procedures give newly single patients an extra shot of confidence as they wade back into the dating pool. “There may be subtle things that happen in terms of their openness to talking to strangers,” he says.
Soriano thinks that might be the case for her. “It’s time,” she says. “Not necessarily to get married again – but to go out, to find companionship.”
The Motivation for Plastic SurgeryPlastic surgery has become increasingly popular over the years.
So, why is this and what is motivating people to pursue it?
Over 14 million pursued plastic surgery in 2017.
Why? The reasons are different for many people, but a few common ones are consistently sited.
In the past, we were pretty much stuck with what we came into the world with at birth.
For many people, this meant living with body aspects that drove them nuts.
Bumps on the nose, flat buttocks, pockets of fats that no amount of exercise addressed, small breasts and so on are all areas regularly cites as problems.
In the past, these problems often were categorized as an issue of vanity, but wrongly so.
Such perceived defects lead to problems with confidence, and confidence is a key to success in business and personal relationships.
In many ways, people get plastic surgery to boost their confidence in themselves.
Regardless of what others think, a person can nearly be disabled by their physical performance.
Research on exercise and diet regimens has shown that individuals that improve their physical appearance are much more confident and happy.
It is a simple fact if you were born with a hawk nose or some other issue, there simply is not any way to exercise it in to shape.
So, should you be forced to live your entire life with something that bothers you?
Of course, not. If enhancing your look makes you feel better, who is anyone else to judge you?
An additional reason people get plastic surgery involves the never-ending fight with time. We age every single day, and our body shows it.
As people age, they feel compelled to fight against the effects, an impulse that has existed throughout history.
The simple fact is the world is a dog eat dog world, and personal image is part of the competition.
It is a well-settled fact that more attractive people do better.
This is particularly true in the business world and is reflected by the fact that more men are pursuing plastic surgery than ever before.
In modern society, you are expected to live longer and work longer.
Plastic surgery provides an option for remaining competitive on the all-important image standpoint.
Finally, some people pursue plastic surgery as a remedy to an unfortunate problem.
Plastic surgery is undertaken after mastectomies for instance.
Body abnormalities resulting from birth defects or trauma are also an area plastic surgery provides an answer for.
Surely, nobody could object to such personal enhancements!